I was everything she was looking for but it came in an Asian package

awmf marriageThe story of Marie and John

John and Marie met at a fast food restaurant on 23rd Street in New York City. Actually, that’s where John first laid eyes on Marie. They were meeting with a group of mutual friends on their way to Suede, a club up the street that no longer exists and that’s where Marie met John. This was back in 2004. After a couple years of dating each other on but mostly off as well as dating other people Marie decided to give John a shot because he’s persistent and kept “coming around”. They called Downtown Los Angeles home for 4 ½ years and now they’re back in New York, 8 years married, have a 7-year-old boy and a 12-year-old mutt they adopted in LA.

american womanQuestions to Her

On Our first date…He took me to Bubby’s and then to the Cloisters.

During the first months of dating my deal-breaker would be…
outside of just general lack of interest or no “sparks,” it would really have to be something quite horrible as I’m a very patient and forgiving person and nobody can be perfect. But if I’m forced to say then it would have to be consistently uncontrollable anger, harshness, and disrespect.

I learned He is right for me when…
I realized I would miss him when he moved to California.

I had a cultural shock when He…
took me to China.

asian american3 things I love about Him are…
his concern for people when they are wronged, how he remembers the little things as well as big things that I like or want and that he came back for me three times!

The biggest misconception about His country and culture was…
people think China is the third world, but it’s extremely modern and westernized.

The most beautiful thing He ever did for me was…
surprise me with my mom for Mother’s day. He flew her up from FL.

During this relationship, the most important thing I learned about myself was…
that I can love something that I never thought possible – an Asian man.

If there is a piece of advice I could give to my fellow Western girlfriends who are into the AMWF relationships that would be…
Make absolutely sure you can handle and accept the cultural divide and language barriers with the in-laws.

chinese guy dating adviceQuestions to Him

Asking Her out for the first time was…
I didn’t want to directly ask her out so I asked my friend and his wife to have dinner together at this awesome Thai/French restaurant and I told them to tell Marie that if she’s free, she’s welcome to join us.

I learned She is right for me when…
all my guy friends liked her better than me…lol

I had a cultural shock when She….
brought me to meet her parents, and they have a lot of guns…lol.

american wife chinese husband3 things I love about Her are…
she’s a great mom, she takes great care of me and she’s so graceful.

The biggest misconception about Her country and culture was…
she’s a Southern girl and until I met her, I’ve never drunk beer at 7:50 in the morning while riding ATV and shooting guns…lol

The things that She likes to do for fun with me are…
we love to eat out, watch movies and get massages together.

She hates when
I…Snore…Zzzzz.

beautiful international familyDuring this relationship the most important thing I learned about myself was…
Don’t go to bed mad at each other.

If there is a piece of advice I could give to my fellow Asian friends who are into the AMWF relationships that would be…
Have confidence: you won’t know unless you ask her out. So what if she isn’t into Asian guys…never was Marie…but she said I was everything she’s looking for but came in an Asian package.