The story of Cedric and Alexandra
Cedric is Chinese Mauritian and Alexandra is Australian. They are a very happy couple who live together and have been together almost three years. Most people would describe their relationship as genuine and naturally progressive; they have a way of challenging each other with banter but
genuinely compliment each other. They met via online and both have a shared passion for health and fitness, social economics, cryptocurrency, investment properties and are often found at many trance music events. They believe and demonstrate to this day, the crucial elements in a successful relationship; communication, compromise, empathy, trust and an amazing network of support.
Questions to Her
On Our first date…
Hands down the best first date given its simplicity – a $10 movie date and coffee- walking hand in hand not expecting too much and just getting to know each other. Cedric ended up taking a cute couple pic before dropping me off, it was really sweet.
During the first months of dating my deal-breaker would be…
If there was the epitome of the honeymoon period, it was ours. It was so amazing and perfect, Cedric and I completely let our guards down to allow a natural relationship to develop. During a prime time of getting to know each other and working out, ones deal breakers, Cedric honestly possessed none for me. My biggest was alcohol and I loved the fact that Cedric prioritized his life goals rather than going out every weekend made me realize how lucky I was.
I learned He is right for me when…
He put me first, and when he couldn’t put me first he prioritized me, and he genuinely made me the best version of myself, and still to this day does.
I had a cultural shock when He…
I have always loved Asian culture, therefore, nothing has really been a cultural shock for me but connecting with his family initially proved challenging. Something with time definitely improved this and we are all close now.
3 things I love about Him are…
His work ethic, his determination, and his brain. Mediocrity is not enough for Cedric he constantly challenges himself and always learning and researching, he is such an inspiration.
The biggest misconception about His country and culture was…
When I went to Mauritius I was shocked with the cultural diversity and demographics, Chinese were only a minor percentage of the population and the social economics also were diverse; there were people that were very well off, mostly the Chinese but the original Creole were very very poor, it was a genuine culture shock for me and made me appreciate my country.
The most beautiful thing He ever did for me was…
I have had a few serious health issues and Cedric has been the one holding my hand in the hospital, massaging my pains away and supporting me emotionally and physically.
During this relationship the most important thing I learned about myself was…
Independence, its ok to still have a sense of self whilst being in a relationship.
If there is a piece of advice I could give to my fellow Western girlfriends who are into the AMWF relationships that would be…
You are with your person because they are the right person for you. Take culture and race out of the equation. Some people have a preference, yes, but for me, it stemmed more than that specific Asian look. Focus on the attributes and qualities of the person you like. Be cautious and slow when it comes to meeting the family, you want to show your partner’s family you aren’t a pretty new toy that’s not serious, but someone that will be a genuine
partner for their son and someone to take seriously.
Questions to Him
Asking Her out for the first time was…
I knew Alexandra would have plenty of guys talking to her so I knew that I needed to stand out and do something different, I had to let her chase me, I barely responded to any of her messages, I played hard to get. I didn’t give much away until the first date. I knew I was interested in Alexandra but I wasn’t sure if it was just a physical connection. However, from our first date I definitely knew- it was natural and very easy. Alexandra was very easy going and easy to talk to and very bubbly.
I realized she was the one for me when…
She provided the support that I needed more so than anyone else.
I learned She is right for me…
My biggest cultural difference was coming from a background of dating plenty of Asian women and some of the traits that they have, being concerned with materialistic things, completely money orientated etc. Alexandra is nothing like that. I tested her a few times on dates, e.g. took her to a cheap restaurant and she was more than happy.
I had a cultural shock when…
I come from a very close-knit family and expected Alexandra’s family to be relaxed and as easy going as she is, but they are not and she is quite separate from them so unfortunately so there has been some struggles with her understanding how close I am with my family and me empathising and understanding why Alexandra isn’t.
3 things I love about Her are…
I love how clumsy she is, her constant positivity and plenty of her blonde traits. I love that she continually tries to see the best in everyone and takes on that “fixing people” mentality. I also love her positive energy when she is around the RIGHT people; she becomes a much better version of herself.
The biggest misconception about Her country and culture was…
AMWF is not a common thing in Australia, the misconception is that Australia is majority white people and they are all laid back and easy going. This to some degree is true however Australia is VERY multicultural, interracial dating is becoming more common but unfortunately you do not see many Asian men dating white women, and if so the Asian men are much more westernized.
The things that She likes to do for fun with me…
Our favorite things include fitness, cooking, movies and going to trance events.
She hates it when…
She hates when I say “ok” I don’t express emotion enough. She also hates it when she knows that I am right most of the time :p
During this relationship, the most important thing I learned about myself was…
Compromise, both Alexandra and I struggled with this initially but now have an even balance. The early days in our relationship was getting to know each other and we honestly didn’t have a fight or argument for at least 6 months. I am a critical person as I believe feedback can benefit a person but I also know Alexandra is extremely defensive. She’s a very emotional person hence I have had to adjust the way I communicate with her.
If there is a piece of advice I could give to my fellow Asian friends who are into the AMWF relationships that would be…
Be confident with approaching women. I was very confident when I asked out Alexandra but I also played things differently what other guys did (and what she told me they did) If you constantly message a girl or constantly talk to a girl she will become bored, you need to keep some mystery about yourself, keep her on her toes and keep her guessing. When I was younger I had no idea about girls, I was nerdy spent my time on the computer and not interested in girls. When I was 18 I made the conscious decision to move from Mauritius to Australia as I craved a laid-back lifestyle and wanted something different and for the next few years I worked on myself; self-development, fitness and studied. To become dateable you need to be the best version of yourself, be happy within yourself and ask the question- what is your self-worth? People describe me as very cocky but I am happy with everything that I have achieved in life and I only want to get more in life with Alexandra as my partner.
