The story of Sacha and Kausal
Sacha is a mixed French girl (half Polish half Congolese) who lives in Paris and Kausal is a Belgian boy (Cambodian) who lives in Brussels. They met in a nightclub in Brussels, Belgium. At that time, Sacha was doing an internship in Brussels for her last year of study in 2016. On that night, Kausal saw Sacha and came to her and they talked a bit. After having exchanged their Facebook, they chatted for 1 month before to see each other and especially before she came back to Paris. They met each other every day for a week before she left. Now, it will be 2 years on July 12th, 2018, since they are in a long distance relationship with webcam conversation, a few travels, and rendezvous…
Questions to Her
On Our first date…
We met at the metro station Louise because there had an event “Les Aperos Urbains” not far from here. It was on July 8th, 2016. For us, it was not really a date because we have seen each other as friends. But, it was a very special moment because we were together all night long, we talked, we drunk and I felt very well with him. We laughed a lot. It was so funny. We stayed together until the morning. He took me to LeMons des Arts place to see the sunrise. And at this moment, we shared a kiss. It was really a special night because we were just friends but in the end, it finished in a romantic way. A few days later, we started dating even if we knew it will be a long distance relationship; we tried. I will never forget.
During the first months of dating my deal-breaker would be…
A man who does not make effort to see each other and does not care about you. Communication is very important in a long distance relationship so if there is no exchange, no chatting, no talking, no seeing each other, there is no point to continue. At the beginning of our relationship, I was really afraid that it would be like this because it was my first long-distance relationship… but fortunately, we know how to deal with it.
I learned He is right for me when…
I felt very confident with him and alone. I never really trusted myself and thanks to him and his support, I feel better.
I had a cultural shock when He…
Told me at the beginning of our relationship that his parents may not accept our relationship. I thought that because they lived in Brussels they would have a less traditional view but it was not really the case. We do not really talk about that but it can change. We never know.
3 things I love about Him are…
His optimism. For him, we can do what we want in life, we just need to believe in ourselves.
His smile. When I see him smiling I feel very well myself. He is my sunshine.
His respect. He is very respectful. Even if, there is something wrong when he says something honestly he stays very respectful and I really love it. It is very important for me.
But, actually, I love everything about him so it is hard to stay on 3 things.
The biggest misconception about His country and culture was…
nothing. Brussels and Paris are the same. It is Europe. He was born and grew up in Brussels. I was born and grew up in Paris. These countries are next to. He has got his culture but it is a mix of Western and Oriental cultures so I am not really out of town.
The most beautiful thing He ever did for me was…
On the third day of our relationship, he gave me a bracelet. He has got exactly the same. At that time, I knew his feelings were sincere.
During this relationship the most important thing I learned about myself was…
that I can trust someone. I am generally very careful towards others. I do not why, I guess, that is my nature. Thanks to him, I have changed a bit.
If there is a piece of advice I could give to my fellow Western girlfriends who are into the AMWF/AMBW relationships that would be…
to do not give up on your relationship because of the distance even it is hard. Also, do not listen to people who criticize your relationship or your boyfriend because often they do not know anything about your relationship. They have no right to tell you what to do especially if they have never experienced a long distance relationship.
Questions to Him
Asking Her out for the first time was…
done in a natural way. We did not ask ourselves “the question”.
I learned She is right for me when…
I saw her after we talked on messenger. I loved chatting with her and when we met I can say it was love at first sight.
I had a cultural shock when She…
I had not a cultural shock because I think we are the same. French culture and Belgian culture are very similar.
3 things I love about Her are…
her personality, her character, and her lips. She is the girl I was looking for and she came my way. I am very happy.
The biggest misconception about Her country and culture was…
nothing because we think the same way.
The things that She likes to do for fun with me are…
everything. We used to love to eat. We love discovering different foods. And, we love traveling. I hope in the future we will travel more. When we are not together, we play video games (League of legends, Yugi oh duels links, etc…), watch video on Youtube and we talk a lot on messenger and Whatsapp.
She hates when I…
read a message she sent to me and I do not answer immediately. She is not very patient at times.
During this relationship the most important thing I learned about myself was…
I can be an important person for someone. She believes in me.
If there is a piece of advice I could give to my fellow Asian friends who are into the AMWF/AMBW relationships that would be…
to believe in you whatever happens and not to doubt because of the words and the eyes of others. It is true that it is more difficult for Asian men to find someone because of stereotypes, legends, and clichés about Asians but we must ignore everything people say and move on. If someone really loves you, that person will not listen to all this crap.
